1. He/She doesn’t seem to make any plans for your future
When you ask him/her about anything related to a future together, he/she says that you two should be worrying about now and not about the future yet. As in, does he/she even plan to stick around for a longer period of time or is he/she just a visitor to your life and will he/she be gone by morning. Here is a sign that he/she using you to get over their Ex. Stay Smart
2. He/She compares you two a lot
Every time you do something sweet for your partner, he/she goes, “You see, my ex did the same thing once,” or, “My ex did it this way…”
No matter how hard you try, he/she is constantly comparing you to him/her ex. Every little thing reminds (him/her) of (her/him) and it’s so freaking creepy. Here is a sign that he/she using you to get over their Ex. Stay Smart
3. He/She didn’t throw away the gifts
Let’s be real, do you keep the stuff you got from a man/woman who ruthlessly broke your heart? Of course you don’t because it reminds you of that awful time with an abuser who didn’t know him/her place.
But what does your boyfriend/girlfriend do? Well, he/she keeps everything (he/she) got from her/him, locked safely in his room. Here is a sign that he/she using you to get over their Ex. Stay Smart
4. His Ex is Still Around.
If they just broke up but they’re still hanging out, you need to chuck up your deuces and go! I don’t care if their breakup was mutual (which it never is) — they shouldn’t be spending time together! And more importantly, you shouldn’t be with someone who can’t stop seeing their ex. Think about it. Why would they want to hang out together right after a breakup? Obviously because they still have feelings for one another
5. He/She cant commit
He/she can talk about the relationship he/she had with his/her ex, but not the one he/she currently has with you. If he avoids the “R” word, it’s because he/she is not ready for real commitment. You can’t blame him/her, especially if he/she just got out of a serious relationship. Here is a sign that he/she using you to get over their Ex. Stay Smart
6. His Friends are surprised He’s Dating.
If you’ve met his/her friends, which is a big IF, they may be surprised that you two are dating. If they say something like, “Wow, I can’t believe he/she is already dating,” or, “It’s good that he/she found you, his/her ex really did a number on him” — pause. It’s a sure sign that he/she is not actually ready for a relationship. If his/her friends are questioning the relationship, it’s because they know something you don’t.
7. The Relationship Isn’t Romantic.
Is the relationship more physical than emotional? Go ahead and take that as a sign. You can tell that you’re a rebound just by paying attention to your s*x life. If the s*x feels detached and consumes a good majority of the relationship, it’s rebound s*x. Now, don’t mistake zero inhibitions s*x for rebound s*x — they can both be wild and intense, but only one of them helps someone forget about their ex (at least for a few minutes… maybe even seconds). Here is a sign that he/she using you to get over their Ex. Stay Smart
