There are just far too many players in the world these days – it can be tough to tell if a person is sincere when it comes to love and relationships. You are so used to having guys come up to you and flirt with you without even really having any intention of falling in love with you. And you’re tired of it. You’re sick of getting your hopes up for these kinds of men who just give you nothing to hold on to. These are the kinds of men who shouldn’t even really be worth your time anymore.
The good thing is that you don’t have to put up with these kinds of men for too long. You can spot them early on and know if they’re just playing you by seeking out the signs. And if you see that they’re just playing you, after all, there’s one thing that you can do to fix the whole situation.
1. He doesn’t open up to you about his inner thoughts and feelings.
He doesn’t want to open himself up to you because he refuses to give you that power. He doesn’t see you as the kind of girl who is worth being vulnerable.
2. He keeps getting tangled in his web of lies.
He lies to you. He doesn’t respect you enough to tell you the truth. He keeps on lying to get himself out of trouble – and you just let him do it over and over again.
3. He always cancels on you in favor of his friends.
He makes it clear to you that you don’t matter much to him. Even if you made plans to hang together, he would willingly cancel on you just to be with his friends.
4. He doesn’t make you feel like he prioritizes you at all.
He always lets you take a backseat to your relationship. He doesn’t do or say anything that makes you feel valued or appreciated. He doesn’t show you any sense of gratitude at all.
5. He doesn’t keep his promises or follow up on what he says he’ll do.
His word means nothing. You can’t rely on anything that comes out of his mouth. He is going to promise you one thing, and he isn’t going to deliver on it at all. He isn’t a guy who you can consider to be reliable.
6. He puts his needs above your own all the time.
If a man were earnest about being with you, he would cease being selfish, and he would take your needs and expectations into consideration as well. But he isn’t like that. He doesn’t care much about your needs.
7. He goes out of his way to hide your relationship from the world.
He still wants to present himself as an eligible bachelor. He doesn’t want the world to know that he’s off the market. And that’s why he wants to hide your relationship as much as possible.
8. He openly flirts with other girls even when he says he’s committed to you.
He doesn’t care about the negative impact that his words and actions can have on you. He willingly flirts with other girls to try his luck even if it hurts you.
9. He leeches money and resources off you.
He is using you for whatever reason other than love. He uses you as a personal ATM. He uses you for your connections. He’s using you as if you’re a mere object.
10. He never opens up about the future of your relationship.
He doesn’t open up about the future of your relationship because he sees that there isn’t even really any future to talk about.
11. He acts hot and cold with you.
He doesn’t give you the kind of consistency that you expect from a man in a relationship. He is kind to you long enough to keep you hooked, but then he turns around, and he acts like a complete douchebag.
What you can do about it:
Just give him an ultimatum. Let him know that you’re on to his games. Tell him that you can see right through him and let him know that you’re not willing to put up with any of it. Give him a piece of your mind. Let him have it. Tell him that if he’s not willing to clean up his act and change his ways, then you’re going to leave him – because you would have no problems replacing him with someone who is going to love you the way that you’re supposed to be loved in the first place. Give him a chance. Allow him to change. And if he chooses not to take you up on that chance, then walk away. Leave him in the dust. A guy like that doesn’t deserve a great girl like you anyway.