There are quite a few causes of marriage failure, and you should know what they are before you ever walk down the aisle.
A person’s wedding day should be the greatest day of their life, but the ceremony and party is just the first step in a long journey to staying in married bliss forever.
Marriages aren’t simple, and they are something that has to be continuously worked on.
We all know that to keep a marriage happy and healthy, there are plenty of rules and regulations, mostly unspoken, that both parties have to uphold.
These are both big things and small things, and while most of them come naturally as a result of the love you share for one another, others take a little more practice to get right.
To help you on your way to happily ever after, here are the three major causes of marriage failure and how you can avoid them.
We all have an early experience of this thanks to our family households!
When you are living with your husband or wife, it can be straightforward to start to build up little resentments or annoyances that, if not addressed, can turn into a much bigger issue – contempt.
Things like too much sarcasm or being condescending can hurt your relationship.
They turn from niggles into real bones of contention, and if unaddressed, they start to become the significant emotion in the relationship.
To avoid this, just step back for a second every day and try to evaluate what your behavior has been like today.
If you know you are doing things that annoy your partner, take steps to change this behavior
If it is your partner doing them, you simply MUST talk to them about it.
Don’t let niggles grow into contempt, which is one of the biggest causes of marriage failure.
You are spending the rest of your life with this person, so do you want to be in a marriage in which you are constantly criticizing the things that they do and the decisions that they make?
This will ruin a marriage in record time, so rather than criticizing, perhaps have a calm, polite discussion about your grievances.
You’ll be surprised how easily most issues can be resolved!
Going hand in hand with criticism, defensiveness can arise when you are so annoyed by constant belittling that you finally decide to put up a wall and not let your partner in anymore.
Once this defensive wall is up, it can be tough to pull back down again.
To avoid this, both parties need to accept responsibility for the end of a dispute.
That way, nobody feels victimized or to blame, and you can move on with an equal share of blame and praise for both having found the solution.2
These are three significant causes of marriage breakdown, but they apply equally to non-married relationships.
What others can you add?