1. Inappropriate anger
Having problems in controlling and expressing your anger is also another cue that you are the source of trouble in your relationship or a potential source of future problems. Even if your anger is justified, it is noble to find alternative and healthy ways of expressing it as violent and inappropriate proportions of anger is very damaging to those around you. [Read: 8 Things to do when you screwed-up your partner]
2. Mistaking sex for intimacy
It is always very common for people to mistake sex for intimacy in a relationship. People who assume that having a lot of sex in a relationship, then all is well. But this is ill-advised. It is good to underscore that sex is not a guarantee for intimacy. Sex, Intimacy and communication must go hand in hand. [Read: 5 Things guys do when he is losing interest]
3. You’re obsessed with social media.
If you’re always on social media posting sexy photos of yourself, or — yikes! — flirting with your exes, your partner will definitely feel insecure and threatened. And guess what? That kind of behavior also makes you look insecure and desperate for attention. [Read: 8 Ways to be a more supportive partner]
4. You don’t take responsibility for your actions.
If everything is always your partner’s fault and never your own, you’re probably being a bit biased or irrational. If you don’t easily say, “I’m sorry,” and instead blame your actions on someone else, it’s a sure-fire way to relationship disaster. [Read: 7 Things all women want in a relationship]
5. Failure to dream
This can be interpreted as failure to dream as a couple or as an individual. As an individual, you may dream of going back to college and get a degree and a better job and dreaming as a couple could include buying a home, having children or going for a holiday together. Personal dreams and ambitions indicate to your partner that you are worth to have around and failure to have individual dreams will culminate to dragging your relationship down. This, therefore, shows you are the problem. [Read: 6 Subtle signs you are about to get dumped]
6. What you do/say
How you react and respond when your partner tries to raise a pertinent issue tells a lot whether you are a source of problems or a rational person.
If you are the kind who resorts to their phones, shouts back to pin the other down or the one that quickly changes the topic, then it means you are the problem in the relationship and you need to work on your attitude and discipline.
7. You have friends whispering in your ear.
If your close pals are filling your head with thoughts like, “You could do so much better,” they may be culprits in sabotaging your relationship. Ask yourself: Is this something that happens repeatedly? How well do these close friends sustain their own relationships? It may be time to stop listening to your nearest and dearest. [Read: 15 Charming ways on how to flirt with your crush]
