1. You only wear sweats to bed.
Obviously, comfy clothes are amazing, and—after a long day—there’s nothing better than chilling out in sweats. However, if you notice that your sex life is either lackluster or non-existent, swap out the sweats once in a while for something that makes you feel sexy. If you feel it, your partner will feel it, too. [Read: 30 tips on how to be a good girlfriend]
2. You never initiate sex.
Men love when you initiate sex, plain and simple. The best way to show your man that you want him is to make the first move, no matter how long you’ve been together. [Read: 5 obvious signs he is just wasting your time]
3. Worrying About What You Look Like
Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm.
“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face. Concentrate on the pleasure of the act. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.” [Read: 10 most effective ways to flirt with somoneone]
4. You always have sex in the dark.
Sure, it can be sexy and natural to do it in the dark, but try keeping the lights on once in a while. Not only will this feel more spontaneous, but it’ll allow both of you to really see each other, which can be super-hot. [Read: 5 Reasons why men’s cheat on their woman]
5. Not Giving Him Guidance
Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship. [Read: 5 Simple ways to get rid of pimples]
“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter. “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”
6. You expect him to do all the work.
Sex is an activity that involves two people, and for it to be considered good, you have to be present. Don’t just lie there and expect him to do everything, take an active role—it’ll be better for both of you.
7. You’re not confident.
Confidence is sexy, you know that! Owning your sexuality and not being insecure about your body—especially when you’re naked—is one of the hottest things you can do. Remember: Your guy is in bed with you to have fun, so why would he waste time searching for imperfections
8. You lose your sexuality.
Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy not to make sex a priority, but it really does matter. If you put your man or your relationship on a back burner, one day it’ll probably burn up, so try to remain interested in and willing to have sex. It doesn’t have to be every night, or even every week, but it should be something that you both make time for regularly. Sex Mistakes you are making
9. You think your period means you’re out of commission.
Period sex is more common than you might think. Sure, it can be a little gross and messy, but to take yourself out of the game several days per month because you have it is doing you and your partner a serious disservice. Next time you get yours, throw down some old towels or sheets, and get busy—even if it’s dirty. Your partner will think it’s hot that you’re not self-conscious (and it’s a good way to relax if you’re dealing with cramps or mood swings).