It’s not the end of the world if you’ve behaved badly, but you will you be treated and judged by how you handle the aftermath. If you’ve messed up at work or dropped a bit of a misfire in the home realm, then check out this quick-fire guide to five of the best things to do when you’ve screwed up.
1. Apologize With Both Your Words and Your Actions
When you’re going to apologize to your partner, telling him or her how sorry you are for what happened is an important component. However, taking it a step further and actually showing your partner that you learned from what occurred and that you want to make things right can help bring your message home. [Read: 8 things you must talk about in a healthy relationship]
2. Remind Your Partner How Much You Love Them
Don’t confuse this step with buying off your partner. A gift doesn’t make up for bad behavior, and your partner isn’t someone who can be bought off. What you’re doing here is simply reminding your partner that they are appreciated, loved, and special. You’re adding a rainbow to the end of the rain. It doesn’t have to be a gift, either. It could be a heartfelt gesture, extra snuggle time, something romantic, or taking over a chore they hate for a few days. A little loving papering should happen regularly in your relationship anyway, but it’s especially important after a disagreement, or when you hurt their feelings. Do whatever will make them smile, warm their heart, and affirm your bond. [Read: 8 reasons why you need to stop the relationship now]
3. Make A Plan For Change
Once you’ve apologized, and gotten to the heart of what’s really wrong, you need to resolve things by making a meaningful plan for change. This could be something as simple as saying “I will consult you before I make large purchases” or as complex as saying “I will do everything I can to rearrange my schedule and make sure our relationship is a top priority in my life.“