When we are in a relationship, we overlook all those things which are harmful to us. Not every relationship is toxic from the start; sometimes, a relationship turns into a toxic one with time. Instead of realizing the unhealthy attributes of a relationship and emotional torture, we try to embrace it by thinking of it as “normal” and a part of the relationship. While in a toxic relationship, you will feel your energy draining out. There is hardly anything positive in that relationship. Here is a sign that your relationship is becoming a toxic one.
1. Physical affection grows less
When a couple is in love, you will often notice them making romantic gestures with each other. They will always want to hold hands, hug, or even kiss each other. They will walk with their fingers locked together. They will stay close to each other. Sex is a part of their relationship. Once you find yourself or your partner drifting far from each other, you will notice that these gestures of physical affection are lost. You no longer feel the urge to hug or kiss your other half. This is toxic because one of the partners will feel rejected and would long for such affection. It is not easy to digest that your partner no longer wants your physical affection or give you the same. Here is a sign that your relationship is becoming a toxic one
2. There are more complaining sessions with your friends
Friends are always the go-to therapist whenever something goes wrong in our relationships. We discuss petty fights with them and sometimes those problems which we don’t even share with our partners first. This is also very normal. The problem occurs when you have anything good to discuss your relationship with your friends. A surprise, a cute gift or a perfect date, nothing of this sort. You have a list of complaints about your partner. Your partner should be the one to help you with your problems, not the one creating them. This is a red flag for you to understand that your relationship has become a toxic one, and you need to step out of it. Here is a sign that your relationship is becoming a toxic one
3. Avoidance of important issues
Some matters in life need prompt attention and care. Sometimes you find yourself fighting with specific serious problems that you want to address to your partner, but your partner seems to avoid them every time. Your concerns don’t matter to them. It is alarming when your partner pays no heed to your worries and tends to prevent them. Gradually, this turns into abusive behavior. People like these don’t want to take up responsibilities and turn aggressive when they are asked to do so. Their selfishness takes over them, and they forget that they have to look after their partner as well. Leave such people who don’t want to take up responsibilities and helping in clearing their partner’s apprehensions or concerns. Here is a sign that your relationship is becoming a toxic one
4. You start avoiding the reality that your relationship is toxic for you.
Every person can judge and know what they are in and how it is working for them. Your sixth sense and consciousness allow you to fathom all the shortcomings and weak points of your engagements. Even though from the inside, we know that we are unfair to ourselves, we still hold on to the same rope, which cuts our hands. This is because we don’t want to let go of someone we are emotionally attached to or someone we have spent a certain period of life. The thought that we have been together since years bound us from leaving a toxic person. But the truth we can once again see the rainbows when we push the dark clouds away from our life.
It is never easy to realize such a bitter truth and act upon it accordingly. But it is none the less the only decent thing we can do for ourselves. There is always a silver lining, and let’s not forget that we won’t be able to see it unless we keep ourselves in haze and darkness.