The word sapiophile comes from 2 Latin words. The first is “sapient” means “wise” and the Greek suffix “phile” means “lover of”). This, therefore, means that a sapiophile is someone who finds intelligence the most attractive feature and is also romantically/sexually attracted to intelligence in other people. A good number of people will be attracted by how people laugh, smile, eye color, fashion sense and everything physical.
How can you tell if someone is Sapiosexual?
How do you know if someone is really smart? This may not be so obvious but it is also not impossible. The way a person converses and how they respond can be very revealing. Considering this, the following are useful signs that can help you narrow down your choices.
1. A sapiophile loves owning their library
Since the definition of sapiophile is being attracted to intelligent people, it is highly likely that they would prefer spending their time with someone who has a library. The explanation is simple and it is because they prefer reading to anything else. This is how they get to build their vocabulary and thought processes. They can easily use complex sentences without necessarily stuttering or making mistakes. If they meet someone with similar abilities, chances are that they will be attracted to them.
2. They enjoy long, intimate and eye-opening conversations
If you love or are attracted to people that seem to love long, intelligent conversation, chances are that you are a sapiophile, and that you may not know it. Theses people love long and very deep, meaningful conversations. You are likely to communicate best with them if you can maintain a deep conversation. Such talks tend to open them up and help in building the information they have about their environment.
Fortunately, you are not restricted to the topics of discussion. You can choose anything from art, celestial, science and IT, just to mention a few. The important thing is to ensure that the conversation is useful and informative. Small talk does not work with these people. You can bet that long, and somewhat drab conversations will not affect the sapiophile.
3. They have a photographic memory
A good number of sapiosexuals find unusual things like a photographic memory extremely sexy. The explanation behind this is simple, you will be able to remember everything they said and that is very important to them because they will also do the same. Despite the challenges that come with possessing this kind of mind, it is still very attractive. No one would like to have a partner that vividly remembers all details, especially of memories made together. This level of depth is something sapiophiles find to be incredible.
4. They love debating
You can be sure that the sapiophile will be all over you during a debate or discussion that requires an intelligent thought process. In most cases, they tend to be well-researched, especially in areas of interest. They will respect anyone with the same level of debating skills. This can make a person very attractive to them.
Sapiophiles cannot help themselves from admiring those who are not afraid to speak their minds. The catch, though, is that they must have the ability to organize their thoughts in perfect order. The seemingly creative mess that comes up during intelligent conversations is what gets them every time!
5. They are extremely curious people
Any creative and curious person will be attractive to a sapiophile. The fact that you want to know more about what is happening around you makes you very sexy to them. The idea of you likely sitting up all day and night, researching about a certain topic makes you very attractive to them, since this is probably what they would do when faced with the same challenge.
As an intelligent person, you simply have the urge to keep broadening your knowledge base, even if it means trying out different experiments to attain this goal. In their eyes, curiosity is the most attractive feature one can have, and it works as a fuel to their imagination.
6. They love education
Education may not be a deal-breaker when someone is confident in their intelligence. However, education will give you insight into a lot of new topics and literature that can, in turn, help you become a better version of yourself
For that same reason, sapiophiles tend to love someone that is educated by their side. The secret is to be educated on anything and everything and to have the ability to engage in an intellectual conversation at any time of the day. Sapiophiles find this to be the hottest trait a partner has. It can be a mega turn on for them.
7. People with open minds
Sapiophiles are very good when it comes to having their own opinion. Even so, they tend to strike a balance between expressing their own opinions strongly and having an open mind. Knowing that there is someone ready to listen to your theories and respond positively can be comforting. Nothing makes a partner easy to be with than the knowledge that they will always listen to the silliest things that you have to say.
The ability to keep an open mind guarantees that your partner will be understanding even in things that they do not know. This is something that all people need. It is a recipe for every good and healthy relationship.
8. When someone knows that ‘pretending to be dumb’ is not cute
A lot of girls have had to play dumb because they find it difficult to attract a person that can reason at their level. If this is something that you can never do then chances are that you are a sapiophile. It is not cute to play dumb just to please other people. Selling yourself short is not only unreasonable but also uncalled for. People should like you for who you are.
9. Embracing oneself
From the above explanations so far, it is clear that sapiophiles are confident, and will be attracted to others like them. They are the bold women or men that are never ashamed to embrace their interests, wants and needs. They will also be clear about being attracted to an amazing brain rather than to physiques such as a six-pack, or a big ass.
For this reason and more, you should never hide how brilliant you are just because the people around you cannot handle it. The world has a lot more people like you and in time you will meet your perfect match, as long as you are not shying away from whom you were created to be.
10. They are obsessed with correct spelling
Spelling mistakes are a turn off for every sapiophile. They easily get pissed off when people spell things wrong. They are also the kind of people that would notice the simplest of things such as when they are reading a text or a written letter that does not need any spelling corrections. They take this as a blessing sent from heaven, and it is, in fact, a huge turn-on for them.
11. When someone admits that they are clueless about a topic but they want to know more
Sapiophiles are not a know-it-all and would appreciate people that accept this truth about themselves too. They know their limitations and would own up to not having all the answers.
When they meet people that know about a certain topic more than themselves, they would stop to listen and learn, as opposed to diving in with empty comments. The best they can do is to throw in a question or two when seeking clarification. This also makes them expect the same of those they are attracted to.
12. They reveal their weird interests easily
A sapiophile is likely to love you more if you are not afraid to open up about interesting topics of research. They love to hear about what fascinates others, just as they would be willing to share about their fascinations. This means, therefore that if you have a weird interest, don’t hide it!
13. Using conversations as foreplay
After you set the mood after dinner with candles and wine, remember that kisses and cuddling may not work for them. You need to work on her or his mind if you want things to progress further. The kisses may come later after the mind is already seduced. If this is the kind of partner you have, then you better step up and find ways of making the person feel engaged in what you want.
A sapiophile is attracted to uniqueness. You can be sure that he or she will never go for someone that is all about following trends. They are more about finding that which stands out as opposed to that which fits in.
When you stay true to yourself and cultivate a unique taste in everything including music, movies, and food among others, then you have a chance of winning a sapiophile over. These traits will make you seem special and interesting, which is all they are looking for.
15. The heart is just as important as the mind
Everyone knows that emotional intelligence is just as important as raw intelligence. In addition to being well-read and having admirable knowledge, you need to be in touch with your feelings. Sapiophiles will admire your knowledge, but if you lack emotional intelligence, they will consider you cold. Remember that every person needs warmth and understanding more than anything. This need seems to be even direr in sapiophiles.