You should never have to be a victim of infidelity in your relationships. But still, it happens way too often these days. It’s so hard to find a loyal man who is always going to stay committed and faithful to you in a relationship. There are just so many guys out there who take very immature approaches to love and romance in general. They want to play the field. They keep playing games in dating as if they’re still children with nothing to lose. They play with peoples’ feelings and emotions a lot without regard for the consequences. They treat the whole dating scene as a game, and it’s just downright sickening.
And it’s challenging to spot out a cheater too. A lot of them are just so good at hiding their tracks; at making sure that they don’t get found out. They keep playing everyone for fools, and they always get to wash their hands clean when they’ve had their fun. And that sucks. You never want to be unfortunate enough to be in a relationship wherein your man is cheating on you. You don’t want to be in love with someone who isn’t even able to stay loyal to you. But one of the most challenging aspects of dealing with a case of infidelity is the shock that comes with finding out that the person you love has been cheating on you all along.
There’s a particular shame that comes with knowing that you’ve been playing the fool the whole time. So, if you want to make sure that you aren’t being made a fool of, it’s essential for you to always stay on top of things. The moment that you notice that your man is cheating on you, you need to be able to call him out on it. But you also don’t want to be accusing him of infidelity when you don’t have a basis for doing so. That’s why you need to stay vigilant and keep an eye out for the signs. If you notice that your guy has been guilty of a lot of the things that are listed in this article, then it’s highly likely that he’s cheating on you – and you need to confront him about it.
1. You started as an affair yourselves in the new aspects of your relationship.
If he cheated on someone else to be with you, what makes you think that he isn’t going to cheat on you to be with someone else? You know what they say after all. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2. He is continuously accusing you of being a cheater.
He’s deflecting. He’s so guilty of the way that he’s treating you that he’s going to try to convince himself that you’re guilty of doing the same thing to him. He thinks that if he’s cheating on you, you may be cheating on him as well.
3. He has had increased spending habits.
This may be leading to two possible conclusions: he’s having gambling issues, and he’s acquiring lots of debt, or he’s having an affair, and he’s trying to fund it the best way he can without you noticing it.
4. He is trying out new things in bed with high accuracy.
He has had practice – and it’s not with you. It’s rare for guys to be trying out new moves in bed and getting them right immediately without having practiced it first. He’s engaging in extracurricular activities when it comes to his s*x life.
5. He acts overly critical of you.
He is always criticizing you over something. And you want to know why? It’s because he has a reference point now. He is low-key comparing you to someone else in his mind; someone he’s having an affair with.
6. He has difficulty keeping track of his stories.
He has woven a very complicated web of lies, and he’s finding it more and more challenging to keep track of everything that he’s told you.
7. He doesn’t open up to you as much.
He doesn’t want to open up to you as much anymore because he has found someone else he can open up to. He has someone new with whom he can discuss his thoughts, feelings, and emotions. He doesn’t have to depend on you anymore.
8. He has random new passions, hobbies, or interests.
If he’s suddenly taking a new interest in certain hobbies or topics that he has never been into before, then it’s probably because someone else is influencing him to do so – and it might be someone he’s having an affair with.
9. He has had family members who have been caught up in cases of infidelity.
Maybe it’s just how his environment shaped him as he was growing up. Perhaps it’s a familial influence. Maybe he thinks that cheating is okay because he sees it happening all of the time.