There is just so much cheating and disloyalty these days in relationships. It would be safe to assume that there is a substantial bulk of people who would willingly cheat in a relationship. And why is that? Well, it can be challenging to give a general answer for all couples. There are just so many variables that go into determining one’s disposition to remain loyal in a relationship or not. But what we can do is spot certain trends that will make it easier for you to gain a better perspective on cheating, and it will allow you to prepare yourself in your relationships better.
There is no denying the fact that more and more marriages are ending up in divorce these days. Some people even go through multiple divorces in their lifetimes. Of course, it would be irresponsible to assume that all divorces come as a result of infidelity; but it plays a massive part in it. Recent studies by leading experts have concluded that an estimated half of people in marriages engage in some form of cheating. And if you include other forms of long-term relationships, the statistics only go higher.
It would also be unfair t assume that cheating always induces terrible endings. There are plenty of couples out there that have strengthened relationships because of infidelity. Sometimes, the many emotional challenges that come with having to bear with affairs can bring two people closer together. It can be that kind of scare and challenge in a relationship that can wake two people up and change them for the better; it can teach them not to take one another for granted. Another way that cheating is somewhat justified is when it is done to end a toxic relationship. But generally speaking, cheating is wrong, and it should be avoided at all costs. Cheating is never the mature way to conduct one’s self in a relationship – and it’s always best to take the high road.
1. Talk about what cheating means to both of you.
You need to be able to define the parameters in your relationship. You both need to talk about what it means to be loyal to one another. You both need to talk about your standards for commitment. You both need to talk about what constitutes cheating in both of your eyes.
2. Meet each other’s needs as much as possible.
The more you can meet each other’s needs, the less likely you are going to cheat one another. Meeting one another’s needs and expectations breed a sense of contentment. And when you are both contented in your relationship, you won’t go trying to shake anything up.
3. Do activities that you can bond over as a couple.
Try to connect with one another. When you bond with one another, you get the chance to build the level of intimacy in your relationship. You create a sense of camaraderie, and you act more like a team.
4. Communicate as much as possible – and listen.
Communication is key. And remember that communication isn’t purely about just saying what’s on your mind and in your heart. It’s also about really being able to listen to each other. It’s about making your partner feel safe to talk to you.
5. Don’t be possessive or jealous.
The tighter your grip, the more suffocating you become in a relationship. So loosen up a little bit. Let your partner feel free to be their people. Don’t try to imprison them.
6. Get therapy if you need it.
You have to consider the possibility that you are not able to address all of the problems in your relationship on your own. And that’s okay. There is no shame in seeking outside help, especially from licensed professionals.
7. Have a healthy attitude towards sex.
Have a healthy and active sex life. The happier you are in the bedroom, the happier the relationship becomes overall.
8. Be humble and own up to your shortcomings in your relationship.
You aren’t always going to be perfect in your relationship. And the moment that you feel that you’re doing everything right, you put yourself at risk of stagnancy. And you never want to stay stagnant in your relationship. You always want to work on something. There is always something that you can be improving on.
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